I'M SINGLE & I'VE NEVER HAD A BOYFRIEND - I'M PERFECTLY OKAY.Let me start out by saying I have wanted to share about this topic for a long time but haven't had the confidence or words to do so until now.
I am eighteen years old, yes, eighteen, and have never, I repeat, never had a boyfriend. Majority of girls my age have had at least 1-2 boyfriends over their high school career. And when I refer to a 'boyfriend', I mean someone around your age that you can actually go out on a date with, and actually talk about stuff, and confide in each other with...not a boyfriend from 5th or 6th grade that you only saw at school... I have recently become more and more satisfied or content with being single. [Don't get me wrong, I want a boyfriend- someone I can take cute pictures with, someone that wants to hang out with me, or my friends and family, someone who can put up with me making a mess while I demolish a few teriyaki wings at BWW, a man that can hang with my dad, brother, uncles and grandfathers in the topics of fishing, sports, and politics, someone who loves God and enjoys serving and worshipping Him just as much as I do. Is that too much to ask for? Maybe, but I don't thinks it's too much to pray for. ] There was a short period of time during high school where I was jealous and maybe bitter of girls who had a boyfriend, or who were "talking" to someone...I was quite honestly ready to unfollow them, or cut our conversations in half, but I didn't. I was reminded by my Heavenly Father, and other close friends and relatives that a "significant other" does not define you, and these pivotal years in my life are and have been easier and selfishly better without having a 'boyfriend'. So I've been taking time to pray for my future husband, and asking God to polish me up and make me the woman he wants me to be-I don't want to dive into a relationship of "us" and "we" without knowing "me" or "I". I don't even like to use the term [boyfriend], because I feel like in today's world, a boyfriend isn't someone you date with the intention of marrying or a man with whom you do life with seriously looking to the future, but someone who girls only have for a short period of time because that's what peer pressure, Hollywood and social media has told us the standard is... I hope you get what I'm trying to say. Something came to my attention the other day about chasing a man who is chasing God before he starts chasing me & dancing with God until he lets the right man cut in. Those sentences may sound cheesy or irrevelant to you, but to me and some other young ladies around the world, those are important words! So that has been my personal challenge, to be so intuned and inlove with God that I only see the one guy God has created for me. So as I try to wrap up all these thoughts, I want to challenge you, whether you're single or whether you've dated a few guys, that you ask God to show you who and what he has designated for this certain time in your life, and if you need to take some time and find more of God before you find another guy, do so. And if you have a special someone in your life, that you cherish them, and pray for them daily- congrats! Until next time...
Kathy martin
7/21/2016 08:50:42 am
Amen i prayed for a godly man and husband.
Susan Smith
7/21/2016 10:09:41 am
Thank you so much for your blog. Be encouraged; single or married. I know a young ladies (and Men) that have followed God's way of purity and thought that God had meant for them to be single; only to understand later why the wait was long. It was that their husband (wives) were in schools... and not ready for a spouse or unable to have time. If only I had understood God's plan at your age. I am only now beginning to glimpse and it begins humbling myself and waiting on God in my life.
Abby Frye
7/21/2016 02:05:59 pm
Thanks Susan! That's the lesson in learning in this time, there is someone out there, it just isn't time. Hope enjoy the rest of my blogs and the website. God bless! Comments are closed.
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